If you’re pregnant in North Carolina and leaning toward adoption, you might wonder what happens if the birth father says no. It’s a big question, and at Hope First, we’re here to break it down for you.
The answer depends on his role, or lack of it, under North Carolina law, and you’ve got options either way.
His Role Matters
In North Carolina, both parents usually have a say in adoption. His agreement typically matters if he’s married to you, on the birth certificate, or stepping up with support, like money or emotional backing.
But if he’s been out of the picture, hasn’t claimed paternity, or hasn’t helped out before you start the adoption process, you might not need his okay. The law looks at his actions, not just his words, to decide.
When He Objects
What if he pushes back? He’d need to prove he’s been involved—think steady contact or pitching in during your pregnancy. If he can’t show that, a judge might decide his consent isn’t required, especially if he’s had notice and didn’t respond in time, like within 30 days.
A public notice can keep things moving if he’s unknown or can’t be found. It’s about what’s best for the baby, and your choice carries weight. A man who fathers a child outside of marriage must take affirmative steps to show his commitment to establishing a parent-child relationship before the law recognizes his right to prevent an adoption.
Navigating the Process
This isn’t a straight line—legal steps and feelings can tangle up fast. You might need to notify him or show he’s been absent, but it’s doable. In many cases, you can place your child for adoption even if he disagrees. Talking it out with someone who knows the ropes can clear the fog and show you what’s possible.
Hope First Has Your Back
At Hope First, we’re here to help you sort it all out. Do you have questions about pregnancy, adoption, abortion, or your sexual health? Book a free appointment online today—we’ll sit with you, no pressure, just facts. For an ultrasound, call 910-938-7000 to set it up or dial 800-712-4357 after hours.
Whatever’s on your mind, we’re in your corner.