An unplanned pregnancy can bring many challenges, no matter what your situation. If you already have children and don’t have the resources to support another child, it is an act of love to choose adoption.
Many women with a child (or more than one) consider this option. When sharing this decision with your existing children, it’s important to use clear adoption language and ensure the conversation is age-appropriate based on their understanding.
At Hope First, we offer free pregnancy resources, including referrals to trusted adoption agencies, to help you navigate this process with support.
Is It Wrong to Consider Adoption?
Take a moment to think about why adoption is on your mind. Are you considering it to give your baby a loving, stable home while also ensuring the best care for your current children?
Choosing adoption is not a sign of failure or selfishness—it’s a thoughtful decision made with the well-being of all your children in mind. Providing a secure future for your baby while protecting the stability of your family is a choice of compassion and responsibility.
Be Mindful of Your Word Choices
Using terms like “giving up” can be misleading, so be mindful of the language you are using when sharing your decision about adoption with your children.
You are choosing adoption rather than “giving up” a child. You are making a choice that is best for you, your family, and the baby.
Although your pregnancy may have been unplanned, it’s crucial to convey to your children that the baby is still loved just like they are.
Start Talking About Adoption Early
Begin discussing adoption early during your pregnancy. It’s important to give your child[ren] as much time as possible to understand what adoption means and that their new sibling will not be living with them at home.
If you match and choose the baby’s adoptive parents, you can start talking to your family about them freely and positively. Be open about your adoption decision while still offering assurance to your children that they are all loved.
We’re Here to Help You
If you’re pregnant and considering adoption, we can help! We can answer questions, provide information, and provide referrals for adoption agencies. You are not alone. Contact us today!